I believe in the power of the mind to transport a person from their present stressful circumstances and find enjoyment in their own imagination, despite their surroundings. Too many adults think that using one's imagination is "immature" or "kid stuff," but they couldn't be more wrong. To deny that part of ourselves, is to deny a source of peace, fun, and strength in hard times. So I wanted to point out an example of how a person can use willful imagination to rise up out of their circumstances momentarily, and my willful use of such a technique in dealing with my super-cutie girlfriend.
A couple days ago, I was home while my gf was at work, and she texted me to say how crappy the day was, how tired she was, how unappealing all the people in her break room were, etc. So when she was complaining about how her feet hurt from walking all day at work, I told her that if I was there she could wear roller skates while I pulled her around by a little string. Now I just happen to know that my girlfriend loves the idea of herself on roller skates, because that is a cute thing for pretty little girls to do. Then for me to pull her around by a little string evokes a childlike play quality in the scenario, and now she's imagining how funny it would be to skate slowly while holding on to a little string and how much she'd be smiling and trying to keep her balance. It's like a cartoon, and now I've implanted that cartoon in her mind with her as the main character.
In response to this, she perked right up, and told me that if she was going to be on roller skates, then of course she would have to equip herself with knee-high tube socks and short shorts as well. To which I responded that she was in luck because it just so happened to be Roller Skate and Tube Sock Day, and to celebrate it, they just so happened to be giving away free ice cream sundaes to every cute little girlie who shows up in hot pants. Of course she was quickly and thoroughly cheered up by this short conversation. It takes a girl who is very reactive to cute ideas, can take herself less than seriously, and have a certain child-like charm herself to appreciate this line of conversation, but lucky me, I have just the right girl.
The way I talk to my girlfriend shows her that not only do I know how to make her laugh and feel special, but that I love her and subtly suggest her natural sexiness as well. Now when she might be feeling down again sometime, she will have this image I've implanted in her mind, and all I have to do is remind her of it and she is quickly in a good mood again. In a way this is just a product of my own playfulness and I'm lucky to have met someone who is so responsive to it. However, believe me when I say that this is also a good meditation technique. During a moment of boredom and physical discomfort, I willfully implanted images in her mind of a cute, comical, and complimentary version of herself.
And this is how I do what I do...
Stay tuned, more to come!
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